Accepting bad treatment, The Door to More

This is a question I am often asked by the majority of my women clients, that are seeking relationship advice. I often hear; " I do everything for him, and he doesn't appreciate it". He ignores me when, I ask him, and he never gives me what I need. How can I make him, understand?

This is a typical situation among many women in relationships with men, that deny their partners feelings and make no attempt to understand them or hear what they are saying. 

My answer to this is really very simple; We only get in our lives, what we allow. I often switch the problem around, what if you did not do anything for him, and didn't listen to him when he wanted to express his feelings? What if you didn't appreciate him? What would he do?

Chances are he would find someone else? or he would switch roles with you and write me a letter, saying my girlfriend never listens to me, she never appreciates what I do and when I talked to her about it, she dismissed my and my feelings, how can i get her to listen to me? Or this can occur; You can tell him, how you feel one more time, and offer him a chance to make a effort. If he resists, you leave, and you don't turn back. You would want to do this for a number of reasons besides showing him that you respect yourself ( which is considered, highly attractive), you would be showing him, that you are a woman that knows how you should be treated, and are not willing to settle. You would also be enlightening him on all that he is missing, and eventually you will end up with him, coming to you as a brand new man, the one you wanted and deserved to have.

People take things for granted, it's human nature. When something is so reliable we don't appreciate it for that, until it breaks down. We probably would spend the majority of eternity trying to kill each other, if we knew that we could never die. Death makes us appreciate life. So what does this all  mean? It means that we often have to be reminded of death or the possibility of loss to appreciate what we have. If he never comes after you, he never loved you, and you need to go about finding someone that does, Because you don't have insecurity issues anymore, after reading this. Empower yourself!

One sure fire way to get want you want is to  ask for it,  this should naturally happen where the person will want to please you and make you happy. If they don't, why would you want them?
Too many people stay in relationships that are not working in hopes to change the person. They don't realize that they are actually with the wrong person, and are holding their true companion at bay while they try to fix the wrong one. 

It is absolutely critical that you are not co-dependent it is a weak and you will not be respected. The reason why "We are not respected" is because we "don't respect our self"! In order to see a change you must, force it. This takes place when you ask for what you want, and if you are not valued for your needs, then you get up and you leave. Sounds scary to most, and they often say " but I love him", I know he can change, if i leave he will just find someone else! My question then becomes, why are you in love with someone that does not care about how you feel enough to listen to you, respect you and make a change? The problem is not with him, it is with you! You are allowing it, so you will continue to get it. He is allowed to treat you how he wishes and you are entitled to take it or not! You see, where I am going with this. You need to not let bad behavior in your life, or it will stay that way. Why should he do what you want, when he doesn't have to? This is not about being a cold uncaring person, this is about demanding respect and getting what you want out of life, and to take a leap because you are worth it is the most fulfilling thing you can do, you feel empowered, because you are! You are now in control of what happens next! and chances are, he will realize this and begin to try to communicate to get you back, because now he knows that you mean business. You had the courage to walk away from what is not working and you are not settling for less. You go girl!

When Things go wrong... Think Right!

Life if full of ups and downs. Sometimes we feel like there are more downs than ups. When we are trying to accomplish something and feel as if no matter how hard we try, we just can't get it done! We suffer they say as a means for self development, it is through our struggles that we find out who we really are. Staying positive is the key to achieving what we desire. We have all had tough times, some of us more than others. It is how we handle these times that separate us. Quantum mechanics has now proven that our thoughts manifest. So when we are down, things tend to get worse, because we feel like they will. The key is to control your thoughts. Even if things seem as if they are against you and you are the only person in the world that has such hardship, you must consider any negative thought as direct poison making any bad situation worse. What has always worked for me when I begin to feel pressure, whether it be from friends, family, work or just plain life, I imagine a Blue sky, and the problem is a white fluffy cloud passing by. Then i turn my thoughts to what I want. Regardless of what actually is...The results are nothing short of amazing! If i don't let my mind get down, my life won't get down anymore either. Take control of your life, by taking control of your thoughts. You are worth it!

I AM.... As I... Allow

It all started many years ago, when I somehow ended up the go to girl for all my friends and family when things weren't going there way. I spent hour upon hour on the phone, in person and group situations, giving advice that somehow changed their life for the better. As I grew older, I began my career as a Executive recruiter, hiring and firing for some of the fastest growing companies around at the time. As i progress and finished college with a degree in psychology, I realized my true talent was in recognizing talent and bringing it out in other people. I have since then set up my consulting business based on trying to pass my advice to the larger whole and to help as many people as I could. It goes much beyond positive thinking, since positive thinking is very hard to maintain in a life full of ups and downs. How do we keep our thoughts positive and our faith that if we follow through we will see the rewards. Well, I have learned how to convey this information to a array of different types of people. Because of my passion in astrology, and psychology I have learned much about what makes us tick, what holds us back, and how to break free. I am eager to help all break free of self sabotaging habits, building self confidence and the faith it takes to carry on with your own life purpose to find true happiness. Sometimes all you need is a friend that cares, and has the ability to see what it is you need, to break free of the binds that hold you back. I trust in myself to help you truly find who it is you are, what it is you really need and how to get it. I hope you will take the first step by contacting me, to set up a phone consultation. There is a one time fee for my service that gives you 30 days of anytime counseling, to make sure you stay on your path. It takes 7 days to break a habit and 30 days to build a new view of your life that will change everything, the way you love, the love you attract, your career, your money, and your deep intimate relationships will see immediate improvement that you will wonder how you lived the way you did. 

Get Started on your new life today! email me @ illumeastrology@gmail.com to set up a phone consultation.